When asked advice on confronting a past nemesis I said this to a to a female sports journalist experiencing sexism at work.
I told her that the usual 3 step argument wont work :
i.e. X is wrong, you did X, you are wrong.
He'll get defensive and may just lash out.
I told her to lay out the offensive behaviour, then say,
When the other journos are making cracks like that, and you laugh along or just brush it off as a bit of fun, it makes me feel like you don't value my contribution, you don't care what offence this causes and you want to send a clear signal to women to stay away from this workplace and newspaper.
Now, I know you better than to think this is deliberate so can we do something here to move forward?"
The sexist remarks stopped forthwith and she got a raise.
In a nutshell, 1, behaviour 2, effects 3, move on with a positive step forward.
Mrs Me tells me that my inspired wisdom is pretty standard conflict resolution practice. Such is life.
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